Personal Narrative: Rear Window

RRR usually doesn’t pry open the can of controversies however big the reward is.

It seldom pokes its nose in politics, economics, or commerce as there are a zillion other sites devoted to them. You feel too stuffed up with serious facts? Come down to this shack. Here is a place to unwind. Here you will get ‘cool’ drinks after a long walk under a scorching sun.

But at times even RRR feels the heat under it. Especially when it hears that an actress big with child has decided to go through her pregnancy pangs under klieg lights.

The whole nine months, the childbirth and the childhood would all be canned for release. A cracker of a movie that would be!

It is good to see ourselves reflected on the eyes of media.

Decades back a rebel leader in South America was shot down by the police. As he was dying on the lap of a journalist, he suddenly clutched the sleeve of the scribe and pleaded: “Please tell them that I said something important when I died.”

At the last moment the rebel leader couldn’t think of some phenomenal statement as his dying remark for the posterity to remember. He assigned the journalist who had all the time in the world to create something good and put it in his mouth. The dying man was seeing his death through the eyes of the camera.

There is nothing wrong if Swetha Menon wanted to etch her motherhood in history with a movie camera. RRR stands for her freedom as an artist and as an individual to choose her path.

So when the baby finally came out I was told that there were four cameras, along with doctors and the director to soak up the blissful expressions of the mother and child. And as I write this piece, the baby is boldly crawling onto the pages of Guinness book under the prying eyes of the media.

The dice is cast.

One more hurdle to go, that of the censor board, and people from Kasargod to Kanyakumari will soon be treated with the sufferings of woman as she goes through the most glorious period in her life.

It was quite late when the cynics, spoilsports and the jealous joined the party.

After the fashion of Hindu Jagran sena and Taliban movements the moralists cutting across political parties have suddenly come up in arms against the explicit depiction of childbirth in a commercial movie.

“Swetha is selling the honour of woman down the river,” fumes a leader of women’s organization who doesn’t want to reveal her name or her organization’s. “Mothering is an intensively private and sacred affair. To can it and make it into a commercial film is sacrilege.” wail the politicians.

This is not the first time childbirth is explicitly shown in movies, but it is true that from the part of a mainstream Malayalam actress this is pioneering stuff.

Will this movie help people understand the sufferings and sacrifice of a woman as a mother as Swetha has claimed? Can Blessy through this ground-breaking move lift the honour of womanhood even one notch higher?

Blessy, the Columbus. Listen. Let us tell them: why the movie.

Let us stop mixing commerce and values. Let us not mince our words when we make clear that we are only here for the beer. Let them see how the movie has got all its strings firmly tied to the libido of malayalee psyche by now.

Reality hurts, Ms. Menon. You have revealed your skin up to your calf in movies like ‘Kayam’ and ‘Rathinirvedam’ raising the mercury level throughout the state.

People hope that Blessy would can the rest for them. Hence the movie.

We, Malayalees, with our rich imagination are walking photoshops, famous for cropping out the unnecessary, refocusing the unfocussed, and revealing layers how much deeply they are buried. We know what to read closely and what to pass by. You can’t do anything with it when the crude lenses are fitted inside the mind.

Take it from me: if the delivery scenes are shown in the movie as such, nobody would remember seeing a child coming out even after repeated viewings.

The baby will be thrown out with the bathwater, as the saying goes.

In a place where men have already begun to fantasize themselves being turned into Blessy inside an operation theatre watching the unwatchable, (like the Kafkayeske hero who found himself turned into a giant fly one morning), no mother is going to stand a chance against the image of the sexy woman in her with legs wide open.

The camera can only depict, it cannot tag the right emotion with the right scene in right moments.

Now imagine what happens when the child grows up and gets to college. The hottest mms flitting about from mobile to mobile in her campus could be that of her birth. We all become weak when somebody hits out at our mother, right?

Swetha exercised her right as an artist, I am fine with it. But RRR gets a bit confused when it thinks that the child didn’t have much of a choice. It was not asked.

It was simply born as an mms clip.

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56 Responses to Personal Narrative: Rear Window

  1. Well said :)

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    • :-)

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  2. Cant agree with u here…. child birth is all blood ‘n stuff….. a man who sees obscenity in it cn only b a psycho…..whn marriages r 4 the camera…whn death is 4 the camera….whn every smile ‘n evry drop of tear is 4 som one 2 see…..why can’t v hv a birth as well?????

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    • Dear Lakshmi, you are talking about the ideal situation. But reality hurts. I know people who get kicks out of blood n’ stuff. They are all leading normal life in our society. ‘Pregnancy’ is one of the categories in almost all porn sites. So are incest and rape. Against all that how can you say that Swetha’s clip will only be used for noble purposes in future? And why are you silent about the rights of that child born into a movie?

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  3. There are a lot of different ways to show this. The problem sits at the angle of looking at it. I may be making a conjecture, “even though the creator’s intentions are to show all the good emotional and enthusiastic side of it, some people may still be able to think different and sift out just the sexy side from a rather normal clip”.

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    • I repeat Govind, she has every right to choose her path. She is an artist. She can live her life. I wrote this piece to reveal the potentials of a clip. I wrote this to reveal the immense readings that are possible in a seemingly innocent text. I dont blame any particular reading. Cant rate them.

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      • Yes my bad, I don’t mean that the writer is viewing things in a sexual angle. I feel you and you are spot on pointing out the possibilities of malayali men perceiving it. If men are gonna have arousal just by watching not even a soft core movie but a regular one then let it be. Nobody can help it, they themselves need to be corrected to learn to control there mental moves.

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        • Govind, what I was trying to suggest is that there is a line of movies that Swetha has acted in Malayalam. So if the pregnancy scenes come in the next movie, it is only natural that the people read it as a continuing text.

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          • So there is a challenge for the movie maker. He should not deliver this movie to let people read it as a continuing text.

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  4. That clip will be misused is a serious problem indeed. That is not the most important point here. Whether the child was asked about the shoot is the most relevant issue that the writer has raised.

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    • Ok what if the the child likes it when he grows up. And he says “mommy I’m so glad that my birth moments were filmed, I can have it as a memoir ” . Even a one year old will blink his eye and show a face like do what ever you want at a question like that. So this so unreal, it is to add another flame to the fire.

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      • Govind, if it is just a keepsake or a memoir that his mom keeps in her wardrobe for her child there is no issue. But this has become public property. She has sold child’s birth moments for a price. In a world where parents are jailed or deported for threatening their child that they would send her child away if it doesn’t behave, we must be sensitive to the rights of babies.

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        • I don’t believe the intention of it is just to sell it for a price. Yes they will get payed, according to me getting payed does not prevail upon her dare, passion and patience to make it public.

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          • Govind, a whopping big amount was paid. She never wanted it to make it public, not her idea. It was the filmmaker who got to her with the proposal. She accepted it. Courage, passion, patience, and of course money was involved.

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  5. There are people with different mindsets. I know males who remember their mother when they see a pregnant woman. And we don’t know if there is a crowning shot to please the vulgar section you mentioned. The baby’s father and mother agreed to shoot the delivery for the film. So I think there is nothing porn like in the film.

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    • By vulger section you mean those people who read text in a different way from which its author has intended. I am not here to rate any particular kind of reading dear. And that the parents agreed to shoot the delivery scene doesn qualify it in anyway. A commercial movie works in its own principles. I think you are living in a pretty world where things are pretty neat and clean. I write this story to take you into a different world which is also a reality.

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  6. If some one wanted to see a birth it’s not that a big deal. It is shown every day in channel TLC as baby story. It shows al kinds of births and all kinds of complications involved with it. Some skip the actual part but where I have seen most have shown the actual baby coming out. So what I feel is people need to grow up. With the growth of www anyone can feed his or her fantasies. So I don’t feel people should be offended.

    Some people feel giving birth is a private intimate affair and only the ones who are responsible in making the babies should be present at the time of actual delivery. But will the guys in Kerala ever have the guts to take in a delivery room alone? Delivery or child birth is no more a female thing. It’s a group effort by parents and medical staff.

    While some feel its an intimate fair there are another bunch who feel its a celebration, a human being is born and its a gift from God must be cherished for life. So they shoot the whole stuff. Some even have personal vediographer.

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    • Also to add about malayalees infamous imagination , don’t u guys think its not something to be proud of. If a full state has the mercury raised by a scene which shows half a leg , I pity their mental growth. Which got me thinking, India was a place where the dressing was not so covered up and do u guys think every one was walking around aroused? No way. Some perverts will be always there in any time in the society, and just because they can’t control their amusement to talk or do dirty it should not hold back the entire society from growing. This moral policing, which itself started from the fact “if I couldn’t do u must also shouldn’t do”, has actually taken us backwards.

      Also why people feel that seeing a scene why one has to feel aroused because actually they don’t have any stuff happening in their life. If a teenager feels so its justifiable and age appropriate .

      The problem comes when a grown married man feels so. The majority in Kerala spends time drinking that at the end of the day they don’t have time for love life in their on life , i must say rather they don’t have energy or take an effort. The other half is behind making money they don’t care if they actually live together as husband and wife. And these married men feels these movies as their place to release some pressure. They are real cowards.

      And for some reason if some people can get the good stuff , feel the pain their wife / future wife goes through, can at least respect her for that part its worth taking on these negativity.

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      • I understand your point, Krishna. But I believe that in this media saturated world, where even a yogi meditates ironically before a camera (silencing the outside world is the point of meditation. I don’t understand how you can do that when you perform!) a few things must be salvaged from the prying world. I had touched my father’s feet at my marriage directed by lensmen. I had touched my father’s feet when I really felt so. There is a world of difference between them. It is something to do with the mind. It is difficult to silence the camera in your mind and behave naturally. Mothering, I think is something sacred. The pain and pleasure one feels as one carries her child in her womb is qualitatively different from what you feel when you are performing before a camera.

        And you said: “Also to add about malayalees infamous imagination , don’t u guys think its not something to be proud of. If a full state has the mercury raised by a scene which shows half a leg , I pity their mental growth.” Please don’t take your ire on the ‘malayalees infamous imagination’ on that Krishna. The movies, Kayam and Rathinirvedham are supposed to be made to raise the mercury level. The filmmakrs fail if they fail at that. I strongly believe that a man who is not provoked by Rathinirvedham(Padmarajan) is not at all a ‘man’. But what is beautiful in that is the artistic brilliance of the movie. Sex was suffused with art, so that it provokes more. Such movies are made to provoke. Kindly accept that reality.

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        • So ok those movies are made to be provoked, ok so those who went to see it wanted to be provoked and they got what they needed. all happy.

          And how about this movie do u think that u can deliver a baby differently or will the baby not out until the camera man says action, no she was not at all directed to deliver they were just there to shoot what was happening , the natural process was no way challenged. do u think Ms.Menon will focus more on camera than delivering the baby. No chance!!!

          There is some thing called Viewers discretion those who don’t want to see it can sit at home. No one is forced to go to theater.

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          • You said u have touched ur fathers feet on camera man’s instruction dont u think it will be a cherished memory for u when u see it again. Though u might remember it without the video or photo your kid can see it n understand the values?? So was it not worth capturing that image?

            My point is this capturing such private stuff is not a bad thing, it might give insights to some people at least. Its not just as an artist’s right, its any human beings right if they want o show or not show some thing and up to the person who see it if they want to see it or not.

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          • 1) The delivery was not the only thing that was featured. the whole pregnancy was included in the package. We are fighting from different planets Krishna. I want many things in life to remain intensely private. You don’t mind getting them public. Those are different outlooks. 2) If everything is left to ‘Viewer’s discretion’ why do we need reviews then? So sometimes they are to be directed. 3)And I touching the father’s feet was not a message to the posterity. I felt it in my heart and I did it. The moment you look at your action through the eyes of the camera and others, you dilute the purity of moments.

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    • “If some one wanted to see a birth it’s not that a big deal. It is shown every day in channel TLC as baby story. It shows al kinds of births and all kinds of complications involved with it. With the growth of www anyone can feed his or her fantasies.”

      This is the problem with living in a goody goody world. No ‘baby story’ is going to be ravaged by men with an evil eye. As you mentioned the word, ‘fantasy’, I must speak about fantasies and imagination in the real world. Take my word: Even if many men are inundated with porn movies and clips flowing in from all parts of the world, they’ll always be on the lookout for the pics of ‘someone who is familiar’, some celebrity in the regional film industry. They come rarely, they are hot, they sell in a flash. Reality.

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      • So what can we do not to show them at all? if a celebrity does it and it sells, good for her. otherwise too with the current mentality of “men with evil eye” if a non celebrity does it ,she will become an instant one…

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  7. If the child is used like that with an evil intention, we need Norway model child rights and punishments.

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  8. We cannot say anything about intention of the filmmakers, Resmi. I can be artistic, because Blessy is a brilliant filmmmaker. It can be commercial, as every movie is made to rake in money. But the child is not asked. The thing that the kid was too young to ask for its permission doesn’t water down the harsh reality that is was not asked when it went through a crucial moment in its life.

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  9. We don’t have any ideal model for bringing up our children. But every child has identity. We must respect the soul in it.

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  10. Hi all, some time back my friend-journalist (sadly he is no more now) told me an anecdote about a senior actor and a junior one in a set. One day the senior guy saw the young actor looking tired and exhausted. He asked the director what the matter was. He was told that the character the junior had to play in the movie was that of an insomniac. So the young man, who wanted to make things very realistic skipped sleeping for the last three days.

    The senior actor smirked and asked a classic question: “Hasn’t he heard anything about acting?”

    Swetha is a very good actress. Had she been acting in an education film I wouldn’t have any objection to the delivery before camera. But for a commercial movie, she could have acted. She gets her payment for acting, not for living.

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  11. So is getting paid is the real issue? i thought u had problem because the delivery was a sacred thing, and should not be made into a MMS clip. What is the guarantee that an education film wont be made into an MMS clip? A Child was not asked for permission to be shot? was the baby asked to be born? was it asked to be names such and such? it is all decided by child’s parents rite? so u are saying parents don’t have any say? then who Govt. should name the baby? Should it be roll nos? if its just for an argument’s sake this will never end.

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  12. :-) Getting paid is not the issue. It is a different point related to method acting. Actors act using many techniques to create in themselves the thoughts and emotions of their characters. The style and the packaging of an educational film is ocmpletely different from those of a commercial film. The latter with subtle music and good cinematography feeds covert messages to the libido of the audience. Can’t help it. It is so. 2) Just because you have brought a baby to the world and named it doesn’t mean that you can do anything with it. Biologically speaking the moment you brought a child to the world you are spent force in nature. Your time is up. Evolution does not need you. Parenting is an extension. You are givin life to look after your wards. 3)The parents who exercised heir ‘rights’ are languishing in the western world, where you are living. How do you justify that?

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    • So u do agree parents have a role till giving birth. so if the parent want to have that choreographed, edited and sold as a movie whats wrong? And in the same stance if we think was the child actors asked if they wanted to act? if they say yes, was in an informed decision? I know its a entirely different topic, still a child was taken to act, in fact make money for the family or for their own future as they say, what is the difference there? what if the packaging is different in commercial and educational movies. its still making a child vulnerable and taking away the “purity” of the moment without asking it. I don’t think so.. he may grow to hate it or he may love it too but it will be his experience and he will learn from it.

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      • “If the parent want to have that choreographed, edited and sold as a movie whats wrong?” I don’t say anything is right or wrong, noble or savage. I only say that the act breaches on the freedom of the child. Every child has the right to live, and to live with dignity. Our constitution ensures that. (remember I wrote in my story, “RRR gets a bit confused…” not “RRR asserts that”) And I am not so enthusiastic about children doing odd jobs(acting included) minting money for their parents. That verges on child labour I think. We fight the tamilian boy doing menial job in a hotel to support his poor family and then promptly send our kid to the reality shows to bring us posh flats. What a great idea!

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        • “what if the packaging is different in commercial and educational movies. its still making a child vulnerable and taking away the “purity” of the moment without asking it.” Krishna, earlier you talked about sacrificing your privacy to set an example to your children.” The purpose of an education movie at least has such a noble purpose. Still it breaches the freedom of the child. But the commercial movie hurts more, because his freedom was compromised just for money.

          “I don’t think so.. he may grow to hate it or he may love it too but it will be his experience and he will learn from it.” He never asked for it. Something like Original sin. He was born with the stigma.

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  13. “1) The delivery was not the only thing that was featured. the whole pregnancy was included in the package. We are fighting from different planets Krishna. I want many things in life to remain intensely private. You don’t mind getting them public. Those are different outlooks. 2) If everything is left to ‘Viewer’s discretion’ why do we need reviews then? So sometimes they are to be directed. 3)And I touching the father’s feet was not a message to the posterity. I felt it in my heart and I did it. The moment you look at your action through the eyes of the camera and others, you dilute the purity of moments.”
    1) If delivery was not the only stuff, so what ? there is a difference in imagining and acting or showing the real emotional roller coaster a woman goes through during her pregnancy period.
    2) yes ,we need some direction. there should be an age restriction to view stuff n that has to be decided by them. Once we are adults its our responsibility to know right from wrong.
    3) Cant change yous feelings, you have complete freedom to feel so. according to me the purity of the moment felt cant be diluted if some one sees it or not.

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  14. “1) If delivery was not the only stuff, so what ? there is a difference in imagining and acting or showing the real emotional roller coaster a woman goes through during her pregnancy period.”
    Krishna, I don’t understand how you believe that the real roller-coasters in life are stuff by which our movies are made of. Take the best thousand classic movies. Can you suggest any one of them where you have real action portrayed. Why should we need actors then?

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  15. And point number 3. How much intimate can we get with our partner when somebody is shooting it on cam? You feel helpless and take a different persona suitable for the camera and the audience. Alle?

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    • thats why some people can act better than others. Not everyone cant do. i do understand need for actors and classic no basis story lines. it feeds our own imagination. but its nice to see real stuff too..

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  16. Where do you see real stuff Krishna? Reality programs? World wide wrestling? Police chase videos. Do you get kicks out of them believing that they are real stuff? You were pregnant. You had your delivery in a hospital. That is the reality. What more ‘reality’ will you get when you watch Swetha paid-living her pregnancy before the camera?

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    • I am not for or against shwetha. but its the tone in saying which i dont like. there is nothing real in reality shows which i am very aware of. and i dont get any kick from seeing them. its just entertainment. if they try to shoot some real life stuff there is nothing wrong. Again i say if the person being shot doesnt have any problem i dont see it as a problem, the child will not suffer because of it. I am sure.

      The child can not be asked for permission since it doesnt have any worldly knowledge to say yes or no the notion that it was born with stigma is completely wrong

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      • We are now in a loop, repeating our arguments. I am not saying anything is right or wrong. I won’t say it. I won’t say men are evil or noble. But they are different. My point is simple. Swetha steps on to the feet of her baby when she took that decision. That is a grey area. I didn’t say Swetha was wrong. But it is a shifty ground.

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  17. Had they used candid cameras without letting Swetha know that she was being shot, some access to reality could have been achieved. But this, NO.

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    • that is privacy invasion… a big No No…

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  18. Great acting can bring to fore more dimensions of reality than what reality alone can ever aspire to bring.

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  19. Oh you can only have max 4 replies for a comment!! Anyways, this is a reply to another conversation buried above somewhere. If she is getting a whooping amount good for her. After all she is not destroying anything, she is making.

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    • Govind read my story again. Did I blame her anywhere? In fact I supported her and her choice in my story. I only raised my anxiety how those clips will be taken by our society after they have seen those movies. Perhaps a psychologist would have been better to explain that part here.

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  20. Absurt!!! Didnt get a feeling of reading rhetoric article..if that was what were were tryng to make…full of saddo views!!
    how can you be so telepathic about what the kid might feel when she grow up?
    Why are you so bothered about about the kid…no child can hate her mother for such a reson.
    Suffice to say , We can see around us bitches killing and leaving their babies with in hours after birth..there are still parents who doesnt give their girl child even the right to get educated…these are the cases were a child’s rights should be disscussed…
    As you are so much worried about the mms thing and bullying…u see…After all the ‘NEW BRAVE WORD’ is not full of paranoid and nerd people like you… swetha menon’s kid-she belongs to the vry new generation where the number of narrow minded nosy people she hav to face will be very few…they are brave not paranoid like you and others who are just trying to find fault in evrything…as you were going on saying abt ‘rights’ . .guess what!! the Indian constitution has given her the right against bullying..so u dont have to make a fuss taking abt the kid , if at all dat kid is being bullied at sch/colg she has got the RIGHT to take legal actions against them…so she can strut around with proud:)

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    • Gopika, I take you barbs pointed at me in the right spirit. Let me repeat the salient points of my article: 1) “There is nothing wrong if Swetha Menon wanted to etch her motherhood in history with a movie camera. RRR stands for her freedom as an artist and as an individual to choose her path”.2) Will this movie help people understand the sufferings and sacrifice of a woman as a mother as Swetha has claimed? Can Blessy through this ground-breaking move lift the honour of womanhood even one notch higher? 3) Let them see how the movie has got all its strings firmly tied to the libido of malayalee psyche by now.4) People hope that Blessy would can the rest for them. Hence the movie.4) You can’t do anything with it when the crude lenses are fitted inside the mind.5) But RRR gets a bit confused when it thinks that the child didn’t have much of a choice. It was not asked.

      Now tell me from where exactly did you find this writer going against Swetha’s decision? I was portraying the mindset of malayalees. After the kind of films Swetha has acted in , there is every chance that the film clips would end up in the wrong places. And I don’t think that you need a paranoid to air one’s anxieties in this world. When the world gets dirty, dirty things would reflect in a writer’s story which reflects the life around him. .

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      • And the question why I am bothered about that child. Gopika, I can be bothered around any child. It is not just I-my-family-and-my servant kind of life I am caught in. Yes: I am worried about mms thing and bullying. I am concerned about India opening its gates to multinationals. I am concerned about the world around me. Steeped in western ideals people may have grown to tell their daughters that it is ok with boys, but they must know something about protection. The moment we fall for with that line of thinking, and look up on the west as the guiding force in culture and philosophy we break free from our roots. Progress is a loop, Gopika.

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        • Gopika, try to respect other points of view too. If everybody thinks in your line, the wold would have needed one Gopika Gopan alone. We are seeing the matter from different angles. As a teacher and journalist I may have my apprehensions based on my experiences. I am in touch with the so-called new generation for the last 16 years. I teach them. I mentioned about the commercial interests of the filmmakers in canning such a scene. We have some splendid actors in Malayalam. Why did they go for the actual scenes? They knew that it would make sensation. They wanted people including me to attack them.

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  21. “The Indian constitution has given her the right against bullying..so u dont have to make a fuss taking abt the kid”. The Indian constitution has always been there when all sorts of atrocities are carried out on women. So we need a vigilant society which would see to it that the law must finally find its way to the doors of the villains and the victims. We must help the woman realize her rights she has.

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  22. I am not against this movie. I don’t think that delivery is something which need to be kept as a secret. All these kinds of videos are available just a mouse click away. These controversies are unnecessary since none has seen the movie. What is the problem if delivery scene is shown in a movie??? It’s not gonna hurt the feelings of any of the women. The act of giving birth is not a private affair; and it is not at all something that is confined among the females. The controversies related with this movie is a result of pseudo moral values held by malayalees. The have two selves- one is pseudo self that is what they show when they are in public. And the other is the real self that comes out when they are alone.

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  23. I didn’t say I am against the movie. I said I support the artist and her choices. I only mentioned about the readings possible in the text. Baishi, how many commercial movies are made shooting the actual incident? It is not an usual practice, the world over. So the motive is to sensationalize it. To make good money out of it. How can you blink at that truth?

    Everything Indian and traditional are pseudo-moral to people who look at the west for guidance. When did they become the wholesale dealers of morals, Baishi? In the west people kiss in the open. But we do not see that practice here. I don’t say that we a morally better. But we are all culturally different. You can claim that as we kiss behind the curtain, we too must do it in the open in order to be honest. What must be done in the private should always be in the private, dear. That is not pseudo. That is moral.

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  24. Some comments are not rooted in my story. So I repeat the salient points of my article.
    1) People love to see more and more of themselves through media
    2) Even deaths are not spared as illustrated by that rebel leader’s death.
    3) Swetha has every right to take that decision.
    4) There is chance that people want to see more of Swetha in Blessy’s film.
    5) The filmmakers do it with a purpose. It is a commercial film.
    6) The camera can only depict, it cannot tag the right emotion with the right scene in right moments.
    7) Swetha has exercised her right. But what about the rights of that child? RRR is CONFUSED.

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  25. I have seen a lot of reaction from the people based on the incident and the swetha was at the core of the matter. nobody talked about the baby. saw someone raise a perspective from the baby’s side finally here in this article.

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  26. A lot of movies have showed real life incidents. BBC has made a documentary showing the same thing. Sir, I don’t think they are sensationalizing it. I ddnt say that we should follow west. Everyone has their own morals and values. And we are creating our morality….

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  27. sir i agree with you.when swetha took the decision it is clear that it will become a commercial success. As it is a public issue,she has a responsibility to the viewers as well as the to the child.Everybody talk about only her delivery but you saw it on a different plane: in the child’s perspective.you told in our class that every malayali won’t watch the delivery scene in the way it shown . I remember when my mother heard about swetha allows to shoot her delivery scene in front of public she says to me that it may be the continuation . So i feel that it is a cruel thing that she did to her child. she won’t forget the truth ; the child will also grow!!!!

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